Let no man live his life
without realising his true potential,
for in doing so, he denies
the very purpose of his existence.
Let no man live his life
without realising his true potential,
for in doing so, he denies
the very purpose of his existence.
Fulfil your potential
I teach Men how to maximise and harmonise their masculine and feminine energy.When you understand how to integrate the masculine and the feminine, you will start to play life on easy mode.The problem is that most Men today operate too much in their feminine, making life difficult for themselves for no good reason.As a result, they struggle to find their true voice, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and conformity which has a detrimental effect on every meaningful area of their life.
most men
Out of Shape and hate the way they look
Strained relationship with their Woman
Turns a blind eye to their personal growth
Lets Others Dictate how they Feel
Doesn't have a clear vision for their future
Unaware of how they are perceived by the world
Ignore their bad habits and addictions.
the exceptional few
Has a Commanding Physical Presence
Has a Healthy Relationship with Women
Has a Hyper-Functional Physique
Has Intentional and Aligned Goals
Has High Standards for Himself and Others
Has No Major Bad Habits or Addictions
Understands Himself and the World Deeply
thrive in the masculine
The beauty of activating your masculine nature is that it overcomes all of these previous negative traits in one swoop. It's bold, uncompromising, and decisive—always moving toward what it wants with certainty.If this is something that you're interested in, I offer a comprehensive service that addresses every meaningful aspect of life as a Man.
mitchell spalding
Born in Zimbabwe, raised in the UK, and now living with my family in Montenegro.My mission is to show men how to be a Man in todays world by embodying natural masculine ideals and spiritual awareness.By embracing both our human nature and also pursuing spiritual improvement, I believe we can find harmony within us, and an untapped power that has long been forgotten, or is yet to be seen in the world.
the compound
Deep within the mountains of Montenegro, I envision a Temple—a sanctuary where we, as a community united by shared values and purpose, will gather, grow, and thrive.This compound will embody harmony and strength, with spaces designed to cultivate body and spirit alike. From an open-air training ground & combat area, to serene Zen gardens & an organic pool, the compound will be an ideal environment to support each other on our journey toward self-mastery.Together, we’ll curate a way of life that aligns with nature and our highest aspirations.
More things about me
I sleep on the floor
I've taken cold showers everyday for 3 years straight
When you deal with me, you deal with my family
I've competed in MMA internationally
I found how to drop into my heart when I learned salsa dancing
Seeing the big picture is one of my greatest strengths
I get called "intense" a lot
core Beliefs
Our core beliefs represent how we ought to move through life as Men:
Self-Improvement: The greatest pursuit a man can undertake is a relentless commitment to his own growth and self-mastery. To become the best version of himself is to honour his highest calling.
Natural Lifestyle: True health for the mind, body, and spirit comes from living in harmony with nature. By embracing natural foods, materials, and processes, we align ourselves with the purity and vitality that God intended.
Guiding Values
These represent our most dearest values that determine how we make decisions:
Faith: Trust in something greater than yourself, and find peace in surrendering control over outcomes.
Beauty: Create, appreciate, and preserve what brings harmony and inspiration into your life. Seek and nurture beauty in both the world around us and within yourself.
Simplicity: Appreciate clarity and minimalism in life. Focus on what truly matters by removing excess and distractions. Choose quality over quantity, and seek a grounded, intentional way of living.
Family: Prioritise deep care, loyalty, and connection with loved ones, whether by blood, bond, or chosen kin. Become part of a supportive community where you can find trust, love, and belonging.
Authenticity: Live true to yourself, expressing thoughts, beliefs, and emotions without pretence or exaggeration. Be genuine, sincere, and consistent with your inner values and external actions. Authenticity requires a deep understanding and acceptance of who you are.
masculine virtues
These virtues represent qualities and traits that are most desirable in a Mans character:
Integrity: Your word is your honour.
Courage: Face your fears head on.
Adaptability: Bend, but never break.
Reason: Rationality is mans compass; let it guide you wisely.
Open Mindedness: Curiosity opens doors to limitless possibilities.
Contentment: True peace comes from within, not external circumstances.
Detachment: Freedom lies in releasing what’s beyond your control.
Gratitude: Everything is aligned in your favour; embrace it gratefully.
Self-Control: Mastery over yourself is true power.
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There are no coincidences.
Everything that happens in life has purpose, even if it's not immediately clear. Every event, encounter, and experience is interconnected, driven by a greater sense of fate, destiny, and universal alignment.Synchronicities are not random but part of a larger meaning or path.See the patterns and signs that are unfolding in your life. Embrace them, learn from them, and let them guide you.
belief makes things real.
Belief is a powerful force that makes things real for us. What we believe may not necessarily be true, but it has the power to shape our reality.When a child believes in Santa, he becomes real in the child's reality, and that shapes the quality of his life.What we believe becomes real, so choose to believe in things that will add to your life, not take away.I’d rather live in a world filled with magic and miracles; therefore, I believe it. It now becomes true for me, and that’s the world I live in. It’s a much more desirable place to be than living in a world without them.Choose to believe in what serves you, and it will become your reality.
your attitude determines your reality.
If you want something to be better, change your attitude, not the external circumstance.
beauty is the measure of health.
health is the measure of beauty.
Beauty and health are two sides of the same coin. You can't have one without the other.When we look upon something beautiful, we are witnessing it in its most balanced, healthiest, and flourishing state.Therefore, seek beauty in every aspect of your own life, and you’ll embody your highest vibrational self, reflecting health and vitality.
You are the product of the people you spend your time with
If you want to become a millionaire, surround yourself with millionaires.If you want to become enlightened, surround yourself with people who are enlightened.If you want to become poor, surround yourself with poor people.
FACILITATE YOUR ENVIRONMENT
Imagine you have a sapling you want to grow into a flourishing tree...If you plant it in the wrong spot - where there's not enough sunlight, too much rain, or no protection from the wind - the plant will surely die.For the sapling to become a tree, you need to manipulate its environment so that everything works in favour of its growth (soil, climate, water, wind, sunlight).The same goes for Men and their success (or failure)...If a Man is surrounded by others who neglect self-improvement, lives in an untidy home, and works a job that prevents him from getting adequate sleep, he's fighting an uphill battle. His environment is working against him.However, if a Man can facilitate his environment so that his ONLY choice is to grow, then he will succeed.For example, if I want to ensure that I only take cold showers, I could physically remove the hot tap so my only option is now cold.If I want to eat healthily, I could not keep any processed foods in my home.If I want to sleep on the floor, I could get rid of my bed to leave myself with no other option but the floor.Do you understand?You're essentially simplifying the process of choosing to do "something" by manipulating your environment to strongly encourage that specific choice.This is what it means to facilitate your environment, and it is one of the MOST important concepts to understand if you want to take control of your life and ensure your own success.
how to attract your woman
Men must have a mission (purpose) in life.When you pursue this mission, your woman will naturally be drawn to you in some divine way...There has NEVER been a heroic story book where the main characters whole mission was to "pick up chicks" like lots of people advocate for in this modern world...They had a STRONG mission that they set out to accomplish.And along the way they found their woman through the pursuit of this mission.The woman IS NOT the mission.Chasing women is a form of escapism.You are escaping from pursuing your REAL purpose to try and get some short term pleasure.Long lasting, meaningful relationships are what matter in life.When you are aligned with your purpose and living true to it, your woman will find you.No need for PUA.
No need for clubbing.
No need for dating apps.Pursue your purpose in life and your woman will find you.
polarity
Everything That Happens Is God’s Will: Every event in life unfolds precisely as it should, guided by a higher purpose. Trust in the wisdom of divine order, for all things work together for a greater good
Find Your Family: A strong, supportive community is essential for a fulfilling life. Surround yourself with those who uplift, challenge, and strengthen one another. True growth is found in unity.Embrace Your Masculinity: A man must honour both his ego and his nature. His body, given to him by God, is not something to reject but to nurture. It is his responsibility to embrace his masculinity, fully understanding its power and purpose.Light vs. Dark: Light and dark are inseparable forces in the world, constantly in battle. We strive to align ourselves with the light in every thought, action, and decision, knowing that in this, we fulfill our higher purpose.
the words that follow "i am" follow you
The words we choose after "I am" set the tone for our identity and personal narrative. When we declare, "I am confident," "I am resilient," or "I am weak," we aren’t just describing ourselves in the moment—we’re shaping how we see ourselves, how we act, and even how we respond to life’s challenges. These words reinforce or challenge our beliefs, which ultimately become part of our habits and behaviour.In this sense, each "I am" statement functions as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Positive declarations—like "I am capable" or "I am resourceful"—support a mindset that looks for solutions and remains steady in the face of obstacles. On the other hand, negative or limiting statements, such as "I am not good enough" or "I am unlucky," create self-doubt, reinforcing a sense of helplessness or inadequacy.By consciously choosing empowering words after "I am," we can shape a more constructive self-image. This concept highlights the responsibility we have over our own narrative, encouraging us to use language mindfully to set a foundation for growth, resilience, and self-acceptance. In a very real way, the words we speak to ourselves create a path we’re likely to follow, impacting both our actions and our direction in life.
saving vs spending
If you find yourself with more than $500 sitting in your bank account, chances are you will struggle to get rich.Its a bold statement but I will explain my idea...Many individuals, upon receiving lump sums, often lack a clear strategy for spending and resort to stashing it away, labelling it as an "emergency fund."In theory, this seems like a reasonable decision, but in reality, it just indicates a lack of knowledge on how to allocate these funds effectively.Growing your wealth demands active investment, not passive saving.Relying solely on saving is a slow path to wealth that will take decades.To accelerate your financial growth, you must proactively seek out new ways to spend it. It's essential to gain experience from using your money, and to learn from the results.Having a scarcity mindset, clinging to every penny out of fear, manifests the wrong outcome.And modern Men, driven by a low-risk tolerance, often find themselves stuck here.Regardless of clichés, significant personal growth lies beyond the comfort zone, and the greater the risk, the greater the reward.And what you’ll soon find, as you begin to take risks and gain experience in spending and investing, is that the risk factor diminishes over time.Each venture educates and sharpens your financial mind, increasing the likelihood of success over time.
God exists
Imagine a world within a storybook—a place of vast landscapes, intricate lives, and endless mysteries. The characters within its pages live and move, entirely unaware of the hand that wrote them into existence. To them, their world is complete and self-contained; they see the sky, feel the earth, and live by the rules they know, never realising that every detail, every event, every turn of fate, was imagined and set in motion by an unseen Author.The characters ponder their origins, searching for answers in the only places they know, looking outward into the vastness of their world. But no matter how hard they search, they cannot reach beyond the boundaries of their story. They are confined to what they can see, touch, and understand. Yet the Author exists outside their reality, weaving meaning and purpose into each page, guiding each life and scene with intent.Now imagine we are those characters. Our world, like the storybook, seems whole and complete. We explore it, marvel at its complexity, and wonder about its purpose, often forgetting that something—or Someone—must have written it all. Though we cannot reach past the “pages” of our existence to see the Author directly, our world’s intricate design, beauty, and order point to a Creator beyond it.In this way, our lives are an unfolding story, each moment guided by a hand we cannot see. We may be unable to cross the boundary of our reality to meet the Author, but the existence of the story itself is the proof—an ever-present reminder that beyond what we know lies the Source of everything.
Peace comes from within
"The only Zen you find on the tops of mountains is the Zen you bring up there."
These are the five realms of meaningful self-improvement.
1. strength of character
Your Strength of Character is what ultimately defines you as a Man. It represents the values you hold and the code you live by. By developing your Strength of Character you will experience the following:
Deep Self-Belief & Authenticity
Clarity of Purpose & Direction
Mental Toughness
Larger Risk Tolerance
A Sense of Meaning, Purpose, & Fulfillment
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs & Self-Doubt
Meaningful Responsibility
Complete control over your Emotions
A Life Free from Bad Habits and Addictions
Building strength of character empowers Men to rise above the moral decay of society, becoming beacons of Light.It is the foundation upon which a Man builds his legacy, leaving a lasting impact for future generations to emulate...
2. physical prowess
Physical strength and capability command respect and influence to this day, and it is a foundational element of masculinity.From a primitive perspective, the strongest and most physically capable Men were seen as the most admirable and worthy of respect.In order to fulfil your masculine potential you must:
Develop a well-rounded and hyper-functional physique
Enhance your Combat Effectiveness
Promote Health & Vitality in the body
3. spiritual evolution
Spiritual Evolution means to nurture a profound connection with yourself, Nature, and the Divine.It's a journey of self-discovery, Faith, and Understanding the world around you.By pursuing spiritual development you can attain:
Deep Self-Awareness
Inner Peace
Wisdom
Gratitude
Connection with something greater than yourself
4. physical presence
Your physical presence is how you present yourself to the world.
By improving your overall image you will master the following:
Body language that authentically reflects your masculine essence.
Optimise your attractiveness by enhancing your natural strengths and neutralising any weaknesses.
Craft a style that embodies your authentic self.
Find your true resonant voice that compels the world to listen.
In mastering these elements, you will develop an aura that naturally draws people to you and opens doors to new opportunities.
5. women
Masculine and feminine energies are two sides of the same coin; you cannot have one without the other. They represent two ends of a spectrum, working in harmony to create balance and wholeness. To fully embody your highest masculine energy, it is essential to understand and integrate the feminine energy as well.Without this understanding, you may find yourself lost or isolated, struggling to connect with the Women in your life.By learning how to engage with the feminine energy, you develop emotional intelligence and effective communication skills—qualities that will enhance all of your interactions and relationships with Women.Recognising the importance of these dynamics enables you to operate at your highest masculine potential, leading with confidence and authenticity.
mindset mentoring
I operate in black and white—yes or no, questions and answers. You ask me a question; I give you an answer. You bring me a problem; I deliver the solution.
This isn't a standard coaching service. This is your Genie in a lamp.I believe that clear, actionable answers to meaningful questions are often all we need to grow as Men. And that's exactly what I will give you.For everything that is not related to your physical training, this time together will allow us to dive deeper into the other areas of your life that you have challenges with.Whether it's confidence, bad habits, relationship issues, style, limiting beliefs, or anything else related to your personal growth as a Man.
Personal Training
My training approach encompasses multiple aspects of fitness... From bodyweight and martial arts to bodybuilding and strongman techniques. I will teach you how to sculpt the ideal physique and achieve a hyper-functional level of fitness.What we will work on:
Losing Excess Fat
Building Muscle
Improving cognitive function (slow down the ageing process)
Achieve a hyper-functional level of fitness
Whole foods meal plan designed for optimal health and your specific goals
If you have specific goals such as learning how to dance or learning how to fight, I can also offer this.
fees
Whether its Mindset Mentoring or Personal Training my hourly rate is €50. You may mix and match sessions however you see fit depending on what your goals are.You will see the best results with 3 sessions per week but 1 session per week is also acceptable.
discount
Block of 5 hours: €225 (€45 per hour) – Save €25
Block of 10 hours: €400 (€40 per hour) – Save €100
Block of 15 hours: €500 (€33 per hour) – Save €250
location
Mindset Mentoring: FlexiblePersonal Training: My home gym in Ljesevici, Montenegro, or yours if within a 30 minute drive.
This is a collection of insights drawn from my experience advising Men across multiple realms of life: